people

I personally think that some people just appear in your life for some particular purposes, either it's destructing or constructing. They might someday wake up with those weird voices telling their conscious of affecting someone's life. I did feel that. One day I just woke up from this bizarre dream of someone and it influenced me for the next 3 weeks. That dream changed my view of that person. And so, I think it's how life works. It's nonsensical if people in your life were destined to meet you, it's more like, what you do is how you put them into your life. A lot of people think it just works for love-what-so-ever life, referring to soul mates. But I don't think not only soul mates works that way, friends or best friends do too. You can't be friends with your current friends if you didn't go to the same school, the same class, or even if you didn't sit next to them in your first day. You can choose people to be put in your life. But back to what i said, it's up to you whether you want them to be destructing or constructing. Destructing means you are ready that your life is ruined by them yet you still want them in your life (ironically it works like that). So does constructing, it means you want them to be in your life in good purposes (this is what most people think about soul mates; good purposes mean love, like getting married or having children). Everyone want their life in a good sync, that they want only the constructing people in their life. But the main problem is, you can never know when the right person comes, not even a hunch will do. It is left to you how you 'diagnose the symptoms of constructing people'. I admit that I fail at human relationships -I'm a bad friend sometimes and I'm not even a child prodigy to my parents- but I have a way to conclude which ones are destructing and which ones are constructing. I build walls. I know this is a bad way but I think that's the most rational. It prevents you from being hurt or being left outside your bubble 'naked'. I won't let my walls come down unless they want to climb it. So to speak, people who are constructing, don't want to make your life worse, they want to fix you, so they aren't eager to climb those walls just to be with you behind those walls, protecting you from the inside. Otherwise, people who are destructing just want to destroy those walls, they want to be with you -at times, in some cases they need you- but in a bad way. Once they destroy your walls, I know you'll feel insecure, so they come to 'secure' you. But that's temporary. If one day your insecurities are them, you have lost your walls, leaves you feeling alone, more alone even when you're with them.

Well this is how I manage people in my life.