Date a Girl Who Reads

Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book. Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent.  Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.

dreary

Sometimes when I get upset, something inside of me shuts down. I feel like I should be crying or screaming or something but I don't because I'm turned off. I go silent and don't talk very much, just looking at people. Thinking so much that I could drive myself crazy. It's the kind of upset that confuses me and makes me want to curl up and sleep it off. I stay fixed like this until the hurt runs away. Sometimes it feels like it's never going to go.

john hughes please come alive!

"I want John Cusack holding a boombox outside my window. I wanna ride off on a lawnmower with Patrick Dempsey. I want Jake from Sixteen Candles waiting outside the church for me. I want Judd Nelson thrusting his fist into the air because he knows he got me. Just once I want my life to be like an 80’s movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason. But no, no, John Hughes did not direct my life." -Olive (Easy A, 2010)

bedroom plans

So, I'm moving to a new house and the fact that it's not in the suburbs anymore, makes my new house's environment more noisy. But well, like I care. I don't go home frequently and probably I'm just gonna spend my time in there for only like, 2 days at most (except for the holidays). The house is currently 50% built. My room isn't made completely and few weeks ago the architect asked me how would I want my room look like. To that, I have few designs on mind. I've always wanted to have my own room since forever (since I was a baby until now, I've been sharing rooms with my sister). The idea is  to have an off-white room. But I guess that won't work cause i have a lot of colourful stuffs (i still don't have a favourite colour, yes), so I'm just gonna put a fuchsia/beige/burgundy/salem touch in it. Here's a few inspirations.

Three sides of the wall will be using this wallpaper of white brick and one other side will be a bright yet warm colour.

a letter

Dear guys out there,

Never ever being a jerk to girls. you might ruin her feelings. Not that I care about those girls' feelings, but here's a situation for you. So you like this girl but you don't want to get attached to her too much. You don't really care for her, you just want to be seen with girls whom adore you. You give her attentions, spare some of your times for replying texts or chats, be nice to her, drive her home safely, even remind her to eat or what-so-ever. But deep inside you're just not into her. Yet she starts to like you back and takes everything you do as of you mean it. and then you stay away from her. You're not replying her texts and chats nicely like you used to, you don't drive her home regularly, you don't go watch movies with her anymore, and the worse part, you meet her on the street and see her as if nothing happens. I tell you what. you are shit. You can cure yourself like, in a faster way than girls do. Well, that's okay. we can cure too anyway. But you have changed our perspective on guys. Congratulations, you did a truly magnificent job. The thing is, what if there's this guy who truly loves her from the first time and his timeline comes right after yours? How would you feel if you miss your right train just by an inch? The girl forgets you, I can promise that. But this right guy who wants to be with her, fills her world, just can't get inside because of what you did. we, girls, think that guys are the same. We don't want to get hurt twice, thrice, or any numbers existed out there. We do expect, but we don't want our expectations be ones that destroying us. So, how would you feel if you're this right guy for a particular girl? Unhappy? Hurt? Jealous? You can define your heartbreak but can never get close to our definitions of heartbreak.

So, if you truly have those affections and attentions to that particular girls, please do tell her what you feel. We can't guess much and basically we're tired of waiting. We're not moaning, we just don't understand why there are such guys like you.

Sincerely,

Girls (sluts and bitches are mentioned separately)

people

I personally think that some people just appear in your life for some particular purposes, either it's destructing or constructing. They might someday wake up with those weird voices telling their conscious of affecting someone's life. I did feel that. One day I just woke up from this bizarre dream of someone and it influenced me for the next 3 weeks. That dream changed my view of that person. And so, I think it's how life works. It's nonsensical if people in your life were destined to meet you, it's more like, what you do is how you put them into your life. A lot of people think it just works for love-what-so-ever life, referring to soul mates. But I don't think not only soul mates works that way, friends or best friends do too. You can't be friends with your current friends if you didn't go to the same school, the same class, or even if you didn't sit next to them in your first day. You can choose people to be put in your life. But back to what i said, it's up to you whether you want them to be destructing or constructing. Destructing means you are ready that your life is ruined by them yet you still want them in your life (ironically it works like that). So does constructing, it means you want them to be in your life in good purposes (this is what most people think about soul mates; good purposes mean love, like getting married or having children). Everyone want their life in a good sync, that they want only the constructing people in their life. But the main problem is, you can never know when the right person comes, not even a hunch will do. It is left to you how you 'diagnose the symptoms of constructing people'. I admit that I fail at human relationships -I'm a bad friend sometimes and I'm not even a child prodigy to my parents- but I have a way to conclude which ones are destructing and which ones are constructing. I build walls. I know this is a bad way but I think that's the most rational. It prevents you from being hurt or being left outside your bubble 'naked'. I won't let my walls come down unless they want to climb it. So to speak, people who are constructing, don't want to make your life worse, they want to fix you, so they aren't eager to climb those walls just to be with you behind those walls, protecting you from the inside. Otherwise, people who are destructing just want to destroy those walls, they want to be with you -at times, in some cases they need you- but in a bad way. Once they destroy your walls, I know you'll feel insecure, so they come to 'secure' you. But that's temporary. If one day your insecurities are them, you have lost your walls, leaves you feeling alone, more alone even when you're with them.

Well this is how I manage people in my life.